Star Lord is calling it off with his Gamora.  The real life couple, Anna Faris and Chris Pratt, have announced that they are splitting apart and that there marriage is over.  In a statement released to the public Pratt said, “Anna and I are sad to announce we are legally separating,” the pair wrote in a jointly signed statement. “We tried hard for a long time, and we’re really disappointed. Our son has two parents who love him very much and for his sake we want to keep this situation as private as possible moving forward. We still have love for each other, will always cherish our time together and continue to have the deepest respect for one another.”

That is the notable and commonly found statement that follows this sort of thing and its cordiality gives the notion that they are both consenting in the matter.  It is sad to say, but ultimately I am not surprised by this in one bit and upon hearing it, I had a moment of realization and then shrugged it off as another A list celebrity couple that could not pull it off.  There have been many Hollywood couples that have not been able to last, but this one has hit people particularly hard.

This was the one couple that was going to do it.  There was for each other was evident and it seemed like they had it all together.  They would release videos on the internet of their family happiness and post on social media how much they indeed loved each other. They appeared to have the fantasy marriage that so many others only could dream of.  A similar Hollywood couple that took this same route was Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner. They had the same happy public look that Pratt and Faris had, but they could not survive either.

So point # 1:  We cannot look at any marriage and label it as the perfect marriage or the one that we want to strive for.  What we see on the surface is not the whole story and there is so much more at play that we do not even realize.  I imagine being a couple in the Hollywood spotlight is a difficult thing and even if you are having a difficult time, you cannot manifest that in a public setting because you want to give the facade that all is well when in fact that might not be the case.  It is not fair for the couple for us to do that and if is certainly not fair for our own relationships.

We have to realize that we are all imperfect and that nobody on this Earth can carry the crown of perfection and therefore all will have struggles.  There is no exemption.  To think otherwise will damage our own selves emotionally and that of our partner as we put unrealistic expectations on them.  If only you could have you own Chris Pratt right?

And point # 2:  I am not surprised by the separation because of the lives that they live.  I am not saying that they are bad people, but rather I am saying that marriage is hard enough without having to add the extra amount of burdens that a Hollywood life places on it.  But wait they have money!  Money does nothing for a successful marriage.  Being separated so often has to be damaging and the roles that they play where they are romantic with other people has to have a psychological effect on the mind of the partner. I think about the sex scene that Chris Pratt with Jennifer Lawrence had together in the movie Passengers.

That was a really intimate scene and so were many of the other scenes in the movie. They were both very open about the scene and both expressed that they were fine with it.  I do find it hard that a wife would be so willing to consent to her husband participating in such behavior, but she claimed to be.  It’s acting right so what does it matter?  It matters a lot.  I think that if we act out that which we deem immoral that it does have an effect on us and we do not have much claim on declaring that we are fine with it.  I find it to be a justification.  now I do not judge, but I only point it out.

I do wish them the best and pray that they can work out a lifestyle that benefits their child.

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